The normal amount of doubt regarding success in the certain project, relationships or examinations is usually present in most people. However, when the fear of failure takes on an extreme form, then it is termed as Atychiphobia.
Author JK Rowling’s commencement speech, taken place at Harvard university, was very accurate in her viewpoint that to succeed there will have to endure failure at some point. In her speech she uses pathos, referencing the experience of poverty her family and herself lived. After her short marriage, she “had failed epically and was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it was possible without being homeless.” In her eyes, she was the biggest failure she knew. As Rowling’s story of her past continued, the quote that, “Rock bottom became a solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life,” she fully believes that “some failure in life is inevitable.” As life goes on, people have to make choices and take risks. With risks comes with the chances of failure and that's just something that you have to be okay with. As Rowling proved, things do get better and you just have to believe in that.
The fringe benefits of failure or something I‘m well aware of but the way she puts this in this personal and inspiring speech is breathtaking. She is driven by fear and not a lot of people can do that. She feared most poverty because it inhales fear, stress and more often Depression. When she felt distrusted and hopeless, she knew she hit the rock bottom so she turned this fear of her into her energy and rebuilds her life. And how she became this well known and respected author is because she gained inner security, discipline and a strong will, she didn’t know she had.
She tells these graduates as they walk into the rest of their lives and tells them that their CV is not their life and there are more things than jobs and paychecks.
Elizabeth Gilbert was once an "unpublished diner waitress," devastated by rejection letters. And yet, in the wake of the success of 'Eat, Pray, Love,' she found herself identifying strongly with her former self. With beautiful insight, Gilbert reflects on why success can be as disorienting as a failure and offers a simple — though hard — way to carry on, regardless of outcomes.
Her remedy for self-restoration? "You have got to find your way back home again as swiftly and smoothly as you can, and if you're wondering what your home is, here's a hint: Your home is wherever in this world you love more than you love yourself. So that might be created, it might be family, it might be invention, adventure, faith, service, it might be raising corgis, I don't know, your home is that thing to which you can dedicate your energies with such singular devotion that the ultimate results become inconsequential… I will always be safe from the random hurricanes of outcome as long as I never forget where I rightfully live."
I believe that the only trick is that you've got to identify the best, worthiest thing that you love most, and then build your house right on top of it and don't budge from it.
Stories clears the image of ‘BEING FAILURE, DOESN'T MEAN YOU WILL NOT BE SUCCEEDED”,
Any kind of rejection and trials after trials take place only when either you fail, or you are incapable, they both are so different, let’s have a look:
FAILURE is something when you prepare everything so well and you expect something really great in return, but you will end up with the lack of success, but never give up. Failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.
INCAPABLE is a state of being unable to do, they are usually the kind of people who gave up just so fast and said to self ‘I can’t’, even somewhere they can but they don’t believe that they are able to do, for this kind of people there is only one saying that they should keep in mind ‘Nothing Is Impossible’.
Fear of failure kill many dreams than failure do, there are so many things we’re afraid of, and we ended them up by giving up, we don't try to learn them and turn the table to our sides, but what we usually do is ‘GIVE-UP’, and then there would be no success for this kind of people.